We all need to reawaken from time to time into a heaven of freedom of our own making. Every person faces problems related to interpersonal interactions. One makes a note of these as Pleasurable, Tolerable and Intolerable. One can make the intolerable interactions tolerable and tolerable interactions pleasurable with a positive change in attitude.
Children take the liberty of reacting to situations in a candid and loud manner. They do not hesitate to show their anger or displeasure openly. Their reactions do not lead to untoward repercussions, since they are not considered malicious. As one grows the magnitude of reactions has to be modulated. As an adult one has to take responsibility of his or her behavior, comment, gesture, and actions.
Some times despite doing everything right people experience unkind gestures and remarks. A person who is not in the habit of being rude finds it extremely difficult to cope up with such people. Mr. Albert Ellis of REBT says,” do not label a person you can only say the behavior was bad” He also says an attempt can fail, but a person never fails.
One must try to get out of a bad memory as quickly as possible as it helps to prevent further stress. It is up to us to increase the life of a bad comment. One can either listen or dump it if it is not worth paying any heed to. If you think and spoil your days or weeks over it; you are wasting your precious time by allowing negative thoughts that spread like weeds.
When we come across unpleasant interactions; the trauma with such repeated episodes make them unbearable. As you mature, you analyze, introspect and review your own thoughts. Attempts are necessary to modify the unavoidable, intolerable interactions to tolerable. When situations do not resolve despite being nonjudgmental; it is better to avoid such interactions by maintaining distance, ignoring or detaching yourself. One can choose his/her friends if not relatives. It is a blessing to have people with a beautiful mind who are there for you in good times to rejoice with you and bad times to support you.
It is your life; do not waste time over bad memories and interactions. Multiply happiness. Cherish old relationships, friendships and memorable moments. Engage in activities that are gratifying.
I have a vision of people of all color and race from all over the world united and spreading light happiness peace and friendship to make the world a better place
This is the vision I want to convey for a beautiful tomorrow filled with myriad colors of eternal friendship, and music of love and a sense of belonging. Welcome each day with a smile on your face hope in your heart and peace in the soul.
